AuntyB: The toddler turning preschooler wants so much to enter into conversation. Observing others for months talking around and over them creates a burning desire to be a part of this social system.
In the same way their body moves from one activity to another with brief, intense focusing, so does mind and speech. Can you jump, Mom? Can you jump, Dad? Besides giving directions, showing how and teaching, it is time to refine your tactics and follow the child's thinking.
It is tremendous fun for you and your child as you take time to really listen and let the child lead.
Perhaps your little one will say: "Joe Joe barked at me."
You may respond, "JoJo was telling you hello."
Child: "I don't like loud barking."
Parent: "It hurts your ears?"
Child: "Yes." Pause. "I had couscous for lunch."
Okay, Parent, jump now! The dog conversation is finished and it is time to talk about couscous. This conversation may go on for a while covering may different ideas.You are communicating, the child is communicating.
There are critical ties that are weaving together: someone is really listening and talking to me; someone understands me. And for you, parent: This is the basis for staying close and problem solving when there are upheaval adolescent years ahead. You, the parent, are preparing the child with life skills for communicating with others.
Grandmama: If you don't jump, you'll get left behind! It's sometimes a little bewildering.
In our family, we have to watch about providing Too Much Information. When the child is leading, it's time to follow. Don't get caught up in the trap of a little more to say on the subject they've already left. It's an insidious habit.
Conversation is just that: conversation -- a give and take of communication between individuals. It's imperative to use good language skills, but that doesn't mean that your youngster has the attention span to maintain interest for prolonged periods. As they grow, you'll find that their ability to pass the conversation football on a given subject increases.
Respect their abilities and their limitations. They'll learn to respect yours, too.
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